It. Goes. So. Fast.: The Year of No Do-Overs
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meets Glennon Doyle in this new book by famed NPR reporter Mary Louise Kelly that is destined to become a classic—about the year before her son goes to college—and the joys， losses and surprises that happen along the way。
The time for do-overs is over。
Ever since she became a parent， Mary Louise Kelly has said “next year。” Next year will be the year she makes it to her son James’s soccer games （which are on weekdays at 4 p。m。， right when she is on the air on NPR’s All Things Considered， talking to millions of listeners）。 Drive carpool for her son Alexander？ Not if she wants to do that story about Ukraine and interview the secretary of state。 Like millions of parents who wrestle with raising children while pursuing a career， she has never been cavalier about these decisions。 The bargain she has always made with herself is this: this time I’ll get on the plane， and next year I’ll find a way to be there for the mom stuff。
Well， James and Alexander are now seventeen and fifteen， and a realization has overtaken Mary Louise: her older son will be leaving soon for college。 There used to be years to make good on her promises; now， there are months， weeks， minutes。 And with the devastating death of her beloved father， Mary Louise is facing act three of her life head-on。
Mary Louise is coming to grips with the reality every parent faces。 Childhood has a definite expiration date。 You have only so many years with your kids before they leave your house to build their own lives。 It’s what every parent is supposed to want， what they raise their children to do。 But it is bittersweet。 Mary Louise is also dealing with the realities of having aging parents。 This pivotal time brings with it the enormous questions of what you did right and what you did wrong。
This chronicle of her eldest child’s final year at home， of losing her father， as well as other curve balls thrown at her， is not a definitive answer―not for herself and certainly not for any other parent。 But her questions， her issues， will resonate with every parent。 And， yes， especially with mothers， who are judged more harshly by society and， more important， judge themselves more harshly。 What would she do if she had to decide all over again？
Mary Louise’s thoughts as she faces the coming year will speak to anyone who has ever cared about a child or a parent。 It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。 is honest， funny， poignant， revelatory， and immensely relatable。
The time for do-overs is over。
Ever since she became a parent， Mary Louise Kelly has said “next year。” Next year will be the year she makes it to her son James’s soccer games （which are on weekdays at 4 p。m。， right when she is on the air on NPR’s All Things Considered， talking to millions of listeners）。 Drive carpool for her son Alexander？ Not if she wants to do that story about Ukraine and interview the secretary of state。 Like millions of parents who wrestle with raising children while pursuing a career， she has never been cavalier about these decisions。 The bargain she has always made with herself is this: this time I’ll get on the plane， and next year I’ll find a way to be there for the mom stuff。
Well， James and Alexander are now seventeen and fifteen， and a realization has overtaken Mary Louise: her older son will be leaving soon for college。 There used to be years to make good on her promises; now， there are months， weeks， minutes。 And with the devastating death of her beloved father， Mary Louise is facing act three of her life head-on。
Mary Louise is coming to grips with the reality every parent faces。 Childhood has a definite expiration date。 You have only so many years with your kids before they leave your house to build their own lives。 It’s what every parent is supposed to want， what they raise their children to do。 But it is bittersweet。 Mary Louise is also dealing with the realities of having aging parents。 This pivotal time brings with it the enormous questions of what you did right and what you did wrong。
This chronicle of her eldest child’s final year at home， of losing her father， as well as other curve balls thrown at her， is not a definitive answer―not for herself and certainly not for any other parent。 But her questions， her issues， will resonate with every parent。 And， yes， especially with mothers， who are judged more harshly by society and， more important， judge themselves more harshly。 What would she do if she had to decide all over again？
Mary Louise’s thoughts as she faces the coming year will speak to anyone who has ever cared about a child or a parent。 It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。 is honest， funny， poignant， revelatory， and immensely relatable。
Reviews
Priya
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I received It Goes So Fast as an ARC from the publishing company and tore through it over 2 days。 Written extremely well and I can say honestly that I have no complaints or criticisms of the book。 I will say that the full effect of the book is lost on me as a childless 20 something but I was affected enough to recommend the book to my mother， so there！ Thank you again to Holt， Henry & Co。 for the opportunity to read and review this book！
Janet
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Her Memoir is so beautifully written， very interesting read， I’m glad I won it！
Debby Carr
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I received a copy of this book in a Goodreads giveaway。
Kate Olson
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（free review copy） I went into this book only knowing it was about Kelly's determination to be present for her sons during her oldest's last year of high school， and I loved that part of the book。 As a working parent of teens， I know all too well just how fast those years fly， and just how hard it is to balance it all。 Kelly mixes in a great deal about her work at NPR ， as well as reflections on the loss of her father and the state of her marriage ~ with all of the additional content and shiftin （free review copy） I went into this book only knowing it was about Kelly's determination to be present for her sons during her oldest's last year of high school， and I loved that part of the book。 As a working parent of teens， I know all too well just how fast those years fly， and just how hard it is to balance it all。 Kelly mixes in a great deal about her work at NPR ， as well as reflections on the loss of her father and the state of her marriage ~ with all of the additional content and shifting themes， it left me confused at times about the actual intention of the book since it didn't always seem to be sticking with the stated purpose。 Overall this was a touching memoir about a famous mother trying to balance all the things and never quite feeling like she succeeded。 It's rare that these books are written by moms of older kids and I really appreciated a middle aged professional mother addressing the fastest and （in my experience） most bittersweet years of motherhood。 I just wish it had been a bit more focused。Source: Edelweiss digital review copy 。。。more
Aaryn
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As a working mom of two teens， I felt like this book was written for me。 I laughed， I cried， I read passages out loud to my husband and kids。 Highly recommended。
Heather Smith
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I truly enjoyed this book。 As a mother of an almost 16 yr old and a 13 year old， I understand where Mary Louise Kelly is coming from。 It makes me sad to think that my oldest will be leaving in a couple of years。 I long for the days of zip up footie pjs and stuffed animals。 This book brings all the feels to me。 If you had kids I recommend reading this， no matter their age。 We all go through the same feelings as a mom and it’s good to know we aren’t alone。 I received a copy of this book for free f I truly enjoyed this book。 As a mother of an almost 16 yr old and a 13 year old， I understand where Mary Louise Kelly is coming from。 It makes me sad to think that my oldest will be leaving in a couple of years。 I long for the days of zip up footie pjs and stuffed animals。 This book brings all the feels to me。 If you had kids I recommend reading this， no matter their age。 We all go through the same feelings as a mom and it’s good to know we aren’t alone。 I received a copy of this book for free from a Goodreads giveaway。 All opinions are my own。 。。。more
Haleh
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I loved this book Mary Louise Kelly， an NPR reporter who has reported from Ukraine， Russia and Iran， strikes the perfect balance in this memoir between talking about her journalistic career as a national security reporter， while reflecting on raising two sons and worrying about aging parents。 Her anecdotes are heart warming， poignant， and genuine。
Kathy
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This is such a heartfelt book。 Many women will be able to relate on some level at some point while reading this。 It brings home the importance of prioritizing your family over all else。 Although， doing things whether it’s work or activities that bring you joy and satisfaction are vital as well。I loved hearing the stories regarding the authors， various travel and interviewing experiences。 What a fascinating life to live。 I also loved hearing about the relationships and bonds that her sons develop This is such a heartfelt book。 Many women will be able to relate on some level at some point while reading this。 It brings home the importance of prioritizing your family over all else。 Although， doing things whether it’s work or activities that bring you joy and satisfaction are vital as well。I loved hearing the stories regarding the authors， various travel and interviewing experiences。 What a fascinating life to live。 I also loved hearing about the relationships and bonds that her sons developed in school and on the soccer field。 How cool is it that their school has ceremonies within the national cathedral！To hear about the bond， the author had with her father and the daily reminders of his love， brought strong emotions to me。 Also the love and support her mother has provided is such a gift。 What a blessed family！ For the author， to end this book， telling you about her divorce and how she’s handling it， （or not at times） shows just how strong a woman she is。 I love the fact that she has kept in touch with so many of her girlfriends， and that she credit them for helping her to continue moving forward。Be all in wherever you are， and be sure to check in with your loved ones （family & friends）。 Cherish the time you have because it does go so fast！ 。。。more
Sean
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I am a "First Reads" winner。 Thank you to the publisher and author。I could almost "hear" Kelly's voice while reading 'It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。' - it was as if she were providing me with my own personal "listening" experience as an extension of what I've come to know from/of her on NPR。 A delight！Kelly's voice and writing are strong - just as strong as anything she's communicated on NPR。 I'm not a parent， but I am a son and brother。 I could relate to much of what she writes from that perspective。 'It。 I am a "First Reads" winner。 Thank you to the publisher and author。I could almost "hear" Kelly's voice while reading 'It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。' - it was as if she were providing me with my own personal "listening" experience as an extension of what I've come to know from/of her on NPR。 A delight！Kelly's voice and writing are strong - just as strong as anything she's communicated on NPR。 I'm not a parent， but I am a son and brother。 I could relate to much of what she writes from that perspective。 'It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。' - a recommend read for all！ 。。。more
Chris
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Thanks for the free advance copy。Most of it was very readable。I could definitely relate to how fast time goes when working and raising a family。
Jenn Himes
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I recieved this book from goodreads for an honeat review。 This book was so good。 She went on to tell us about her career and a little more about the war in Ukraine and Russia which was nice。 （Loved the chicken） to how her son was graduating and leaving the nest。 I also have two teens so it's very sad 。 It sucks about her father passing away and her mother's injury as well。 I would totally recommend this to my friends and family who love to read。 I recieved this book from goodreads for an honeat review。 This book was so good。 She went on to tell us about her career and a little more about the war in Ukraine and Russia which was nice。 （Loved the chicken） to how her son was graduating and leaving the nest。 I also have two teens so it's very sad 。 It sucks about her father passing away and her mother's injury as well。 I would totally recommend this to my friends and family who love to read。 。。。more
Amy Brown （amylikestoreadalot）
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This won't be for everyone， but if you like memoir essays， especially about parenting and working mother lives， you will like it。 Mary Louise is a correspondent at NPR， too， so you get a lot of stories from her job， too。 My favorites were the family stories。 Thank you to Netgalley for a review copy in return for my honest review。 This won't be for everyone， but if you like memoir essays， especially about parenting and working mother lives， you will like it。 Mary Louise is a correspondent at NPR， too， so you get a lot of stories from her job， too。 My favorites were the family stories。 Thank you to Netgalley for a review copy in return for my honest review。 。。。more
Crissy
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 I was chosen by Goodreads for a copy to receive， read and to give an honest review。 I am super excited to be able to read a book by Mary Louise Kelly ！ Looking forward to receiving and leaving a review soon。 Cheers！
Kimberly
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As a working mom I struggle with mom guilt。 Not “I travel for work and am out of the country for a week or two” levels of mom guilt， but when my daughter was younger she told her brother “I can’t I have a meeting” when he asked if she wanted to play together levels of mom guilt。 This book tackles that topic head on。 The result is an honest story of one women’s attempt to be present and there during her oldest last year in high school。 The author is open about the highs and lows and reflects upon As a working mom I struggle with mom guilt。 Not “I travel for work and am out of the country for a week or two” levels of mom guilt， but when my daughter was younger she told her brother “I can’t I have a meeting” when he asked if she wanted to play together levels of mom guilt。 This book tackles that topic head on。 The result is an honest story of one women’s attempt to be present and there during her oldest last year in high school。 The author is open about the highs and lows and reflects upon her experience and life in such a compelling way。 She finds a way to talk about her personal life and challenges in a way that is relatable even though they are very different than my own。 As I read I felt like I was listening to a story from a close friend。 The end filled me with hope for the future and the remaining years I have to make new memories with my kids before the join the ranks of adults and whatever that may bring。 I received a free ARC of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
Tracie
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I don’t have the words to describe how much I loved this book。 It now falls in the top 10 category of best books I’ve ever read。 Admittedly， I was the perfect candidate for an advanced copy because， hello， I’m the target audience; a working mom， and a long time NPR fan and supporter。 I listened to Mary Louise Kelly on NPR heard her voice in my head as I read the book。 I remember her reporting the events live that she discusses。 I so enjoyed reading her words， with her opinions， and hearing the r I don’t have the words to describe how much I loved this book。 It now falls in the top 10 category of best books I’ve ever read。 Admittedly， I was the perfect candidate for an advanced copy because， hello， I’m the target audience; a working mom， and a long time NPR fan and supporter。 I listened to Mary Louise Kelly on NPR heard her voice in my head as I read the book。 I remember her reporting the events live that she discusses。 I so enjoyed reading her words， with her opinions， and hearing the real story of what took place， tying it all together with lessons in what really matters: family and the love for her sons。I’m not going to summarize the book; you can easily read the summary that was intended for audiences without me doing that。 I want to tell you what I loved。 And because it’s an advanced copy， one is not allowed to quote the book without express written permission， so without quoting it， （which I really want to do） here are some of my favorite and/or most moving parts:When reading Alexander’s birth story and the papers from the hospital… I teared up。 My heart felt so heavy。 I get goosebumps thinking about it， having experienced a traumatic birth myself， she wrote about it in a way that resonates and you cannot explain。 Big， big feels here。We will not be intimidated。 I loved this chapter。 This is where the book really picked up for me and became an “oh no， I can’t stop reading this！” book。 I remember hearing about this interview with former Secretary of State， Mike Pompeo and listening to the parts that aired， when it aired， but LOVED reading it in her words。I gasped out loud SEVERAL times and read with one hand over my wide-open mouth; I was in a public place and people were staring。When she compared him to a toddler throwing a tantrum， I nodded in emphatic agreement。 The whole situation was unreal， I so enjoyed her perspective。 We tend to forget the reality that was that time period （blocking it out， perhaps？） this was a reminder。 What an experience， one that she handled gracefully。The response when Alex went headfirst into a kid picking on his brother？ Priceless and perfect。 Could not have reacted better， bravo， I genuinely laughed out loud！I love that she shares writing with her son。 I， someday， hope to share writing and running （and reading） with my daughter。 I read this part in earnest。On p 107， after her son’s team won the cup and she was talking to her mother， more tears。 My heart felt big。I read the Two Walks chapter with tears streaming down my face that didn’t stop until I read the last sentence of the book， moments ago。I am verklempt。 。。。more
Nancy Reynolds
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I found it interesting to read about Ms。 Kelly's personal experiences - both in her work experiences and how she juggled that with motherhood。 Her decision to be more physically present in her son's lives during her older son's senior year， while writing a book about that same year 。。。 it gave insight to her particular situation。 I read it in small installments。 Life does indeed go so fast。 Cherish every small moment。 I won a copy of this ARC from Goodreads。 I found it interesting to read about Ms。 Kelly's personal experiences - both in her work experiences and how she juggled that with motherhood。 Her decision to be more physically present in her son's lives during her older son's senior year， while writing a book about that same year 。。。 it gave insight to her particular situation。 I read it in small installments。 Life does indeed go so fast。 Cherish every small moment。 I won a copy of this ARC from Goodreads。 。。。more
H
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We have all either heard or experienced parenting going too fast。 Here’s a glimpse into one mom’s super speed year with her oldest son ready to launch after high school。 Great memoir。
Debbie Murray
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Brings back memories good and bad。
Emily Ritz
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I wasn’t able to finish the book before I lost interest。 The writing is ok， but I failed to be pulled into the story。 It may be a correct audience kind of thing。 I don’t have children and I think this books speaks to a specific group of people that can relate。
RF
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Thank you for sending me this book as a giveaway。 I donated it to the Women's Prison Book Project because this is the type of the book their readers enjoy！ Thank you for sending me this book as a giveaway。 I donated it to the Women's Prison Book Project because this is the type of the book their readers enjoy！ 。。。more
Carol
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Reading It Goes So Fast， Mary Louise Kelly， I was excited by her interview with Pompeo and her experiences in Ukraine but let down bt the telling of her empty nest problem with her family and had no clue about the breakup pf her marriage。I feel that it would have been better to just to abbreviate her personal life story about raising her two son and seeing her husband sporatively as he traveled for work。 She misses many important momentS in her son’s growing up but it is the pulls between the jo Reading It Goes So Fast， Mary Louise Kelly， I was excited by her interview with Pompeo and her experiences in Ukraine but let down bt the telling of her empty nest problem with her family and had no clue about the breakup pf her marriage。I feel that it would have been better to just to abbreviate her personal life story about raising her two son and seeing her husband sporatively as he traveled for work。 She misses many important momentS in her son’s growing up but it is the pulls between the joys of motherhood and having an important exciting career， traveling all over the world for job as an NPR reporter。 Unfortunately，her guilt about not being there when needed and also loving her job or like mamy women， myself included， having to work long hours to a steady financial contributer to the family was a necessity。 I coud not count on my husband's income。 A lot what she has said about this situation has been said many times before。 Her experiences are my experiences to a large extent。 The story that I was excited to read was her on the job experiences。There is a description of her interview with Pompeo that is riverting and the meeting after the interview when he was screaming at her with many obscenties。 Then there was a joke shared by Trump that got a laughing response by Dershowitz that angered me and I cannot forgive him for that response。 Respect for reporters and the freedom of the press is an important part of my beliefs。 。。。more
R J Mckay
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I received a copy of this book from Goodreads in exchange for a review。Mary Louise Kelly speaks with a voice that my heart hears。This story resonates with me。 Not because I had a demanding job like Ms。 Kelly's， but because， as my two sons grew up， I always felt I should be doing more， helping them more （or maybe less？？）， and listening more to what they were saying。 Or maybe， simply， because I wanted to be there more。 I received a copy of this book from Goodreads in exchange for a review。Mary Louise Kelly speaks with a voice that my heart hears。This story resonates with me。 Not because I had a demanding job like Ms。 Kelly's， but because， as my two sons grew up， I always felt I should be doing more， helping them more （or maybe less？？）， and listening more to what they were saying。 Or maybe， simply， because I wanted to be there more。 。。。more
M。
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It was a good read。
Katie Bruell
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This book was sentimental and cliched （both in the themes and the language） but if you gloss over those parts， you can read the real struggles of a woman who wants to do the things she's so very competent at--her work--and who wants to be a mother who is there for her boys。 MLK does a great job of articulating this impossible struggle。 This book was sentimental and cliched （both in the themes and the language） but if you gloss over those parts， you can read the real struggles of a woman who wants to do the things she's so very competent at--her work--and who wants to be a mother who is there for her boys。 MLK does a great job of articulating this impossible struggle。 。。。more
Theresa Rohrer
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This should be a must read for every working mother as their child approaches middle school or especially high school Tried to give it to my daughter of four- age 15，11 and twins 9 but she said she didn’t have time to read True but would be worth the night or two it takes。 I read it in one sitting for 7 pm yo a little after midnight so not a hard read Authentic feelings and battles of emotions， time choices and life choices
Kelly Pramberger
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The title says it all。 My son is 15 and I knew this would be an important book for me to read。 Those were the parts of the story I identified most with and wished for more of。 Kelly is a talented writer and I enjoyed getting a close look at her life during this book。 I've already told friends to pick it up when it comes out。 Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced copy。 The title says it all。 My son is 15 and I knew this would be an important book for me to read。 Those were the parts of the story I identified most with and wished for more of。 Kelly is a talented writer and I enjoyed getting a close look at her life during this book。 I've already told friends to pick it up when it comes out。 Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced copy。 。。。more
bookmammal
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I felt like the author couldn’t decide what this book was going to be about。
Rhonda Lomazow
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I completely related to the authors pain as she realizes her son is in his last year of high school last year at home。With a busy career at npr she decides to step back and enjoy the moments of this final year。This is a emotional open memoir so much happens in Mary Louise Kelly’s life and career 。As a fan of hers I really enjoyed getting to know her ，I will be recommending this to friends and think it would be excellent for book club discussions， #netgally #itgoessofast
tpg0
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As an AI language model， I am not capable of reading or having personal opinions about books。 However， "It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。: The Year of No Do-Overs" is a memoir by acclaimed journalist， Ron Lieber， that explores the theme of living life with intentionality and making the most of every moment。 The book chronicles Lieber's journey through a year where he committed to living in the present and being fully present with his family after a tragic experience reminded him of the importance of seizing every opportunity。 It is a thought-provoking read that challenges readers to reflect on their own lives and the choices they make。
tpg1
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I'm sorry， I cannot provide an opinion on books as I am an artificial intelligence language model and I do not have personal preferences。
tpg2
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As an AI language model， I cannot provide a personal opinion or review on a book。 However， "It。 Goes。 So。 Fast。: The Year of No Do-Overs" is a memoir by Katie Williams-Murphy about her experiences and lessons learned during her 20s。 The book covers topics like relationships， career， and self-discovery as the author navigates through the uncertainties of young adulthood。 The title suggests a sense of urgency and willingness to seize the opportunities life presents， rather than living with regret or wishing for second chances。
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it. goes. so. fast. the year of no do-overs